Divorce Questions from the Mouth of Babes

written by Fred Campos
Divorce Questions Out of the Mouth of Babes

[T]here are few parenting moments more difficult than having to answer your kids’ questions about the divorce. No matter how much you prepared yourself for their inevitable confusion, those moments still manage to catch you off guard. How are you supposed to help them wrap their heads around life after divorce when you’re still struggling to get a handle on it yourself?

HuffPost Divorce readers have experienced this firsthand. HuffPost readers on Facebook and Twitter shared with us the questions from their kids they struggled to answer post-split.

Divorce Questions Out of the Mouth of Babes

  1. “I just want you and Daddy to be in the same house. Can’t you just be roommates? For me?”
  2. “When I told my 6-year-old son about the split, he said, ‘Does this mean we’ll be Daddy-less kids?’ Now that hurts.”
  3. “My 10-year-old son Michael asked, ‘Will this home always be here for us?'”
  4. “Will your new wife be our aunt, or what? ‘Cause we already have a mom.”
  5. “At age five, my child asked, ‘When does your heart tell your brain — or your brain tell your heart — you’re not in love anymore?'”
  6. “‘Why did Daddy break his promise to us?’ He had promised to find a place to live close to us… then he moved to another city.”
  7. “What will happen when I get married and you two can’t even be in the same room together at my wedding?”
  8. “Why can’t Daddy’s girlfriend just live here, too?”
  9. “‘How come you don’t spend the night anymore?’ and later, ‘How come you and Mommy didn’t get along?'”
  10. “Why didn’t you leave Dad a long time ago?”
  11. “‘Why doesn’t Daddy love us anymore?’ We haven’t seen him in one and a half years.”
  12. “Why don’t you and Daddy just stay together and work it out? You are supposed to be a team and a team works together, right?”
  13. “Is it my fault?”

Divorce is tough on kids. Take time to listen and be open to answering all their concerns. Keep in touch with HuffPost Divorce on Facebook and Twitter.



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