Does A Breakup Have To Be So Toxic?

The ending of a relationship is rarely amicable. It’s not as if you and your partner are going to meet in the United Nations, a moderated forum where both people can vote on the amendments to the terms of your parting. But at the same time, do we really need that kind of oversight?

Sure, using collaborative services to help ensure a painless and quick divorce, or being mature about the practicalities of ending that partnership is essential. But does it all have to be quite so toxic? After all, while it can feel good to vent your emotions and frustrations, the truth is that relationship breakups rarely only affect you, and this is especially true if you have children. In some cases, you may have a moral obligation to be as professional and mature about it as you can.

So, how can you limit toxicity, even in the face of an ex-partner trying to press those buttons? Let’s consider this, below:

Breakup – Avoid Trying To Score Points

Getting your point across, winning an argument, and making the other person feel bad, all of these are methods of people who just want to point score instead of seeking closure. This can last forever, even long after the breakup has concluded unless they work to overcome that. Scoring points in this context will win you nothing but more conflict. So it’s good to simply seek closure healthily, not winning an old game, but seeking a new and healthier one to play.

Avoid Blame & Finger-Pointing

The truth is, in most breakups, both parties are at least a little bit at fault. That might sound a little strange, for example, if a partner cheats, it’s hardly the fault of the other person. But while that is unforgivable, it might also be that the environment had been a pressure cooker for years, and a lack of emotional and physical intimacy for years finally caused the other person to take refuge elsewhere. That doesn’t excuse it for a second, but an act doesn’t have to be justified to have recognized reasoning behind it, right or wrong. For this reason, blame and finger-pointing can lead to an endless spiral of conflict, and so it’s best to just draw a line, and proceed with the breakup.

Breakup – Embrace Personal Growth & Learning

It’s good to use a breakup as a springboard. There are some benefits to being single – much more time to spend on yourself, much more autonomy to do what you want, and more opportunities to fill your life with considerations outside of a partner. You can follow our website to seek excellent advice for your career, for your personal development, and even for fitness care. Engaging in this can help fulfill you, which allows you to feel less rough about the end of the relationship. When you embrace abundance, suddenly the end of a relationship isn’t something to stew in bitterness over. This takes motivation and a proactive approach, but it can save you months of inner harm.

With this advice, we hope you can breakup more cleanly, using it as a step to your next chapter, as opposed to wallowing in toxicity.

What do you think? What would you add?

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