[S]ure, you and your lawyer enjoy attorney-client privilege, everyone knows that. What is said between you and your attorney is private, and breaking that can be grounds for your lawyer’s disbarment.
But what does your attorney want to tell? What does she not say that would probably help your relationship and your case?
There are several, and as you read, ask, “How many of these am I guilty of?”
1. You Call Too Often.
If you are shocked at your month-ending attorney bill, then maybe you made too many phone calls. Attorneys bill for those calls. And if you call blasting that %&*! you married, guess what? You’ll pay for it. There are dead times during divorce trials, and your attorney will call you with updates. If you want to make a short weekly phone call just for updates, fine. But see if you can handle personal disputes between you and your Ex alone.
2. You Don’t Help Her Help You.
Come prepared when meeting with your attorney. Have your bills, expenses, assets, all relevant information charted and ready for perusal. Doing that not only streamlines your time, but builds confidence between you and your attorney. Making your attorney ask for all that material, and other information that you could have gathered yourself is a costly mistake.
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3. You Don’t Listen To Her Advice, So What’s the Point?
If you ask your attorney for advice, then refuse to take it and suddenly find yourself in a spot because you went your own way, guess what? You’ll have to ask for help again, only this time the solution will likely be more complicated (and more expensive).
4. You Don’t Pay Your Bills.
Attorneys aren’t free. No one can work for free. If you have monetary problems, talk to your lawyer about it. He will probably work with you. But if you are behind, and haven’t had a discussion about your situation, don’t expect him to file an emergency application.
5. You Are Having Trouble Co-Parenting During Your Divorce.
A likely cause for your divorce is parenting conflicts. During your divorce, you probably have to co-parent, a learned, necessary skill that requires a lot of give-and-take. Your attorney can help you with this, but he can’t raise your children for you.
To have a successful relationship with your attorney, keep him apprised of your situation, ask relevant questions, but also do a lot of work on your own.
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